5 IMPORTANT REMINDERS

Hi!

Normally when I write a blog post it’s to discuss something fashion or beauty related like gift guides or skincare but this one is a bit different. Let’s get a little personal. 2021 was a difficult year for a lot of us. Personally, it was a really challenging time as I dealt with healing from a breakup. There are so many stages of dealing with heartbreak and I learned so much along the way. Writing has always been therapeutic for me and something I return to again and again. I wanted to share this little blog post in case it could help one of you. Break ups are one of the most universal human experiences so I know I’m not the only one who has gone through it. Throughout the past seven months I turned to a lot of podcasts, books, influencers, etc that spoke about relationships in an open and honest way. So I wanted to summarize a bit of what’s helped me in hopes that it could help you too.

Here are 5 little pieces of advice:

1. Time Doesn’t Always Heal All

Not really. Not by itself, anyway. Hurt feelings and sad moments ease with time, as things become less sharp and maybe sting a bit less. But time alone isn’t always enough to heal everything. Along with time, it takes working on yourself and looking inward, forming new habits and routines, finding joy in other people, places, and things, filling voids with new activities or hobbies to really and truly heal. Time can dull pain but it takes a commitment to bettering yourself, to feeling your feelings, to letting go and moving forward to heal completely.

2. Everyone You Meet Serves A Purpose

I’ve talked about this book a few times on my social media but 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think by Brianna Weist is absolutely amazing. It helped me immensely and I still go back and reread parts of it. One thing she writes about is that everyone we meet or experience we go through does one of three things: it shows us to ourselves, allows us to enjoy a part of ourselves, or allows us to heal a part of ourselves. I think that idea really gives purpose and meaning to life’s hardships. If you’re going through something difficult or scary and are asking yourself, “what is the point of this,” see if it fits into one of those 3 options. Maybe that person was only meant to serve a purpose of showing you to yourself.

3. You Can Give Yourself Closure

It’s possible to give yourself the closure you’re looking for. Personally, I think that’s the best way to get it. Closure comes in the form of caring for yourself the way you used to care for the person you loved. Focus on yourself and give yourself the love, patience, and kindness you deserve. Another line from 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think reads, “People who have lost love know what you’re supposed to do with all of the love left lingering. You were always supposed to give it to yourself.” Let that self-love be your closure.

4. What’s Meant For You Will Always Stay

I know they say if you love something let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours. But I say, the right things and the right people will remain. You can’t make someone stay. You shouldn’t try to. If someone walks away it simply means that there’s someone else out there who is better suited for you. They were meant to be a part of your life for a certain period of time, but they were never meant to be the whole thing.

5. Focus On Your Own Life

It’s so easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing or how exciting their lives seem. The best thing you can do is pay attention to your own. Make it all that you want it to be and take the time to decide what kind of life you want to live. When you find yourself comparing yourself or your life to others, remind yourself of all that you have to be grateful for.

Those were just a few thoughts that really helped me so I wanted to share them with you guys. If you took the time to read this, thank you! As always, feel free to send me a DM I love talking to all of you.

Xoxo,

Caroline